Over this past winter break God spoke to me in a way he’s never spoke to me before. It wasn’t about religion; it was about how you should always look for the positive in a situation. Search for positive energy and good vibes and it will come to you. Hippies were looked down upon because they were free spirited individuals who smoked but look past the weed smoke and look into how they loved and how their outlook on life was to enjoy every second of every moment. That’s what I strive for….. to never regret something. To enjoy every second that God provides me with on this earth. But I feel like to be able to completely enjoy every second of every moment you have to be comfortable with yourself; so comfortable that you make fun of yourself because you know your flaws are about of who you are and you love that person.
I’ve always been seen as the outsider in my family because I never really followed “the rules” and would beat to my own drum. I never disrespected them but I knew who I was and liked expressing that. Fortunately my dad understood this idea, somewhat, and allowed me to dress however I wanted and let me dye my hair whatever color I was feeling at that moment. My mom went with it but always made sly comments (she’s kind of a people pleaser). I’ve always been outspoken and free and I would always wonder what my purpose in life was suppose to be and how I could use my freeness to benefit others and myself. One summer I did an academic program at UCLA where I would stay on the campus in the dorms for a week and take a class and meet different professors and this was a pretty big deal because I was only like 17 at the time and along with this program I actually already had 2 college semesters under my belt. Well the first night of this program we had to meet with our mentor and do an assessment and that night is when I figured out one of my callings. My mentor was a women’s studies major and I was a business/econ major and we stayed up until 3 am talking about her major even though we had to get up at 6 am (the next day was a fucking struggle to say the least). That was the moment I changed my major. I remember always racing young boys when I was a kid because they always told me that girls were not as fast as boys and that I would lose so I would talk all this shit to prove myself and we would end up racing and once I dusted their asses I would boast about how girls could do the same things as men. Then it hit me…… “HOLY SHIT you were a feminist before you even knew what it was hahaha”. I love trying to tackle how each gender is perceived in society and what they “can and cannot” do but proving to people that there isn’t a map on how to be a woman or a man. There are no rules; we aren’t that much of a puzzle. Yet why is it that society forces their beliefs on how a man or woman should construct himself or herself? A woman can be a CEO and a man can express how much he loves someone and there should not be any sideways looks yet there are. How is it that we all go to college to further our education and become our own yet we don’t think for ourselves when it comes to something as simple as equal pay? I think it’s bullshit that we let society corrupt our minds and how we view something. Women haven’t had a voice for so long that I am proudly using mine every chance I get. Just because I choose to fight for equality for women does not mean I hate men; it just means that I choose to think for myself and choose to be equal with my partner and strive for equality in the world. I don’t feel like one sex should have power over another. We should compliment each other and push one another to be a better person. Not belittle them because of the body parts they biologically have. So let me just define a few words so that you all can better understand what a real feminist is and stop thinking we’re man hating bitter women haha.
“Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment. A feminist advocates or supports the rights and equality of women.Feminist theory, which emerged from these feminist movements, aims to understand the nature of gender inequality by examining women’s social roles and lived experience; it has developed theories in a variety of disciplines in order to respond to issues such as the social construction of sex and gender. - Feminist activists campaign for women’s rights – such as in contract law, property, and voting – while also promoting bodily integrity, autonomy, and reproductive rights for women. Feminist campaigns have changed societies, particularly in the West, by achieving women’s suffrage, equal pay for women, reproductive rights for women (including access to contraceptives and abortion), and the right to enter into contracts and own property.Feminists have worked to protect women and girls from domestic violence, sexual harassment, and sexual assault. They have also advocated for workplace rights, including maternity leave, and against forms of discrimination against women. Feminism is mainly focused on women’s issues, but because feminism seeks gender equality, some feminists have argued that men’s liberation is a necessary part of feminism and that men are also harmed by sexism and gender roles.”